This week the Supreme Court of Canada has given it's opinion regarding four questions posed by the government regarding gay marriage. There is probably no hotter topic in Canada than gay marriage. For moral conservatives this is yet another erosion of the traditional institution of marriage—an institution fundamental to the well-being of society.
However, as important as this issue is, I have to wonder if there are other issues regarding marriage that hold as much as, or more importance than gay marriage. For instance, in the 1970s moral conservatives dropped the ball regarding the easing of divorce laws in Canada. We were assured that this would be beneficial to those people (especially abused women) who need to get out of a marriage quickly, but that it wouldn't erode the idea of permenance within marriage. This has not been the case. Shortly after that ruling divorce rates spiked. Today, nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. A full 80% of these divorces in Canada are based on a one-year separation. That is, if you and your spouse have lived separate and apart for one year with the idea that your marriage is over, then you can get a divorce. So 80% of divorces occur, not because of abuse or due to the unfaithfulness of a spouse, but simply because two people just don't want to be married anymore.
Marriage has become another throw-away in a fast food society. Unfortunately, there are serious social implications to this problem. As the family unit breaks up children are often the ones who suffer the most. They are shuttled between parents; custody battles often force children to take sides in their parents' war; parents may also suffer financially which in turn effects the children. It's a sad state of affairs. Unfortunately, since we have discarded the idea of permenance in marriage our future generations will continue to tie the knot with one foot in the marriage bed and one foot out the door. We cannot build a strong society if we continue to tear it apart at it's very foundations.
Divorce will always be with us, but if we make it a little harder maybe people will think a bit more before they take the plunge. Instead of relying on ever-changing feelings and romanticized ideas maybe they will take seriously the committments and covenants that they make.
'Till death do us part isn't always easy, but it's certainly worth it.